In pursuit of the importance of keeping different perspectives in mind to navigate life's changes and challenges, it is an honor to have the first publication by a guest coach in this blog: Vincent Bos, life, relationship, and breakup coach, who shares his experience and advice for those who have been left behind in a relationship.
Navigating a breakup is never easy, especially for those of you who have been left behind. As a breakup coach, I’ve witnessed firsthand that being a dumpee is about more than just the loss of a relationship, it’s about facing a cascade of changes in every facet of your life. The end of a partnership not only shatters your shared dreams, but also upends your daily routines, your social life, and even your sense of self.
It’s perfectly natural to be overwhelmed by a whirlwind of emotions. You might feel sadness, anger, confusion, or even a hint of relief. Rather than trying to suppress these feelings, allow yourself the space to fully experience them. Mourning is not just about the absence of someone you cared for; it’s also about grieving the future you had imagined together.
In the midst of this upheaval, establishing new routines can offer a comforting sense of stability. Whether it’s taking leisurely walks, exploring a new hobby, or simply setting aside quiet moments for reflection, these activities help to reclaim your time and rebuild your life. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your own interests and to cultivate a daily rhythm that belongs uniquely to you.
A breakup can also serve as a catalyst for profound personal growth. It encourages you to reassess your identity, your values, and your aspirations. Though this introspection may be challenging, it is also a chance to rediscover who you truly are. Embracing this period of transformation can empower you to step forward with renewed purpose and self-awareness.
Lean on your support network during this time. Reaching out to trusted friends, family, or even joining a support group can provide you with much-needed comfort and perspective. Sharing your experiences and hearing others’ journeys can remind you that you are not alone, and that together, we can navigate this difficult path.
Above all, never forget to prioritise self-care. The emotional toll of a breakup can affect both your mental and physical well-being. Be sure to eat well, rest sufficiently, and engage in activities that soothe and rejuvenate you. Although this chapter feels painful, it also holds the promise of new beginnings—a time to reinvent yourself and emerge stronger than before. If you feel that you would like support through your breakup, Whether you need help through breakup recovery or want a strategy to increase the chance of getting your ex back, I provide an audio coaching service, where me and you can speak on a call. More details can be found on my website www.DateMe.Tips
Text written originally in English by Vincent Bos. Spanish version translated by Ester Serra Mingot.
About Vincent Bos: Vincent is a coach specialized in helping people overcome breakups and rebuild themselves with confidence and clarity. Through his practical and empathetic approach, he supports his clients in their healing and personal growth journey. If you feel that you need support to get through your breakup, whether to recover or to increase your chances of getting your ex back, Vincent offers a virtual coaching service. You can find more details on his website: www.DateMe.Tips or in his channel in YouTube.
